Prajinta Pesqueda

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About Prajinta Pesqueda

Prajinta Sthapitanonda Pesqueda has placed the idea of education as the centerpiece on her life table. She is an educator who is poised to continue her 4th decade in the classroom. As a high school teacher and former college professor, she has impacted many lives throughout the years and in turn, has been shaped by those experiences. She is also a student of life and has begun the most important lesson thus far as she learns new ways to create a life and a relationship with herself. These unchartered waters are a challenging task for one who has repeated cycles of dysfunction and abuse since early childhood. Generational trauma and childhood toxic programming present formidable obstacles to overcome on her way to health and wholeness. The catalyst for the current transformation began in June 2019 when her husband of fifteen years suddenly abandoned the marriage.

 

 

“When Ben discarded me, I was not sure I would survive. I had acquired a brand of learned helplessness and trauma bonding that created a crisis of identity. His narcissistic personality disorder and addictions coupled with my own addiction to him and abandonment issues caused formidable challenges that ultimately proved to be too difficult to overcome.”

 

Ms. Pesqueda experienced a breakdown of physiological and neurobiological systems that was devastating, and with no friends or family, it proved to be the darkest night of the soul for her very survival. One of the lifelines she seized was her commitment to daily journaling and letters to herself. As a lifelong writer, what began as a therapeutic attempt to understand the dynamic that caused her husband to suddenly “discard” her, evolved into what has now become 80+ articles in the past ten months. Her focus is twofold: 1) understanding Cluster B personality disorders like narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy, and 2) exploring healing modalities to recover from Cluster B abuse.

 

The medium.com articles were received with such copious responses of gratitude that Ms. Pesqueda ventured into the world of podcasting, and in only 6 months she has acquired over 4,000 podcast listeners. In the past few months, she has added a video blog and developed a website to host the body of her work. Merchandise is available with resources that are in the form of toolkits with helpful materials that enable victims of emotional and/or other types of abuse to access useful tools that will help them navigate their journey toward healing.

Ms. Pesqueda is committed to a mission to remove the shame and stigma of abuse, support the victim and their supporters on their road to recovery, and educate the public on the growing epidemic of personality disorders and other mental health comorbidities that interfere with lasting, healthy relationships. She completed a Master’s degree with a focus on guidance and counseling as well as numerous training programs and certifications for healing facilitators, life coaches, and light-workers. Like so many others who have experienced the ravages of emotional trauma and abuse, she is leveraging her own personal tragedy to help others experiencing similar difficulties, and in return, she is closer to her own evolution that will manifest in the form of increased health, happiness, and hope.

I am a writer, first and foremost, and my writing was the impetus for the growth of N.A.R.C. into a multi-platform destination for information and inspiration of the healing journey following betrayal trauma and narcissistic abuse. With over 100+ articles found at pesqueda.medium.com, topics from understanding the types of narcissists to the cycles of abuse to modalities for recovery, all areas of recovery are explored and illuminated.

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